A Special Binding_4288

owthylvzx · Wysłany: Pią 11:46, 25 Mar 2011 Temat postu: A Special Binding_4288

People are fragile beings. Even those people that seem to have no feelings can break by even the smallest hurtful words. People easily feel insecure about certain aspects of themselves, be it things they were born with, or maybe bad choices made in their lives, but for some reason will have unresolved issues and will go into relationships with those insecurities and self-doubt.
As human beings we thrive on love, admiration and acceptance. We tend to expect that love, admiration and acceptance to come from people, but how eager are we to give that special gift to others?
Can we expect to receive those special gifts if we are not prepared to give those gifts to others?
Let me answer that, off course, NO! We can not expect that, although there will still be those few people in the world willing to give to others without receiving in return.
That aside, how do you feel about a person that openly shows love towards you, is it not easier to love that person? Is it not easier to admire a person that can admire good qualities in you and express them? Is it not easier to accept a person for who they are, if they accept you for who you are? Point being, the more you give those gifts to others (openly), the more you'll get those gifts in return.
So where am I going with this? Let me explain...
Within our relationships we often live private lives within us individually. These private lives are normally the thoughts and feelings we have, that we don't necessarily share with our partners or friends. It can either be good or bad, but the choice still lies with us, about which feelings we are going to nurture.
At certain times in our lives we might even feel bad feelings towards ourselves. Sometimes we don't share those feelings with our partners. These feelings are often sensed by our partners without us knowing it. Our partners can not read minds, therefore, they think that whatever is concerning us is there fault and might feel inclined to put there guards up to avoid any conflict or pain.
This causes a block in communication. That is why communication is so important. However, it is not only the communication of the problem being discussed that is the problem, but it is also about how that problem is accepted by the other party and dealt with.
Let me give you an example.
My husband had feelings and insecurities about an aspect of his life he was born with and had bad experiences with it in his childhood. He never told me about it until only 2 years after we were married. In the meantime, I was having insecurities of my own, thinking that I'm the problem in the relationship.
I had to talk to my husband about this, knowing that no matter how hard it was, it was an issue that needed to be dealt with.
My husband found it extremely difficult to tell me what his concerns were, but did it anyway. He has never shared that with anyone before. This made me feel extremely close to him and I felt that I had earned his trust. He knew he could talk to me because I would love him, accept him and admire him for the courage it took to confide in me. That day brought us closer together than anything else before.
Remember that when your partner, friend or relative confide in you...to think about what they are going through at that moment, put yourself in their shoes and give them the gift that you know you want...love, admiration and acceptance.
For us, Halloween was here. Some of the older folks were concerned about tomorrow night, which was really Halloween night. We had been told,ed hardy wrist bags, "Tomorrow night you are not leaving this house." The story was the same with all of us. There was a conspiracy among the older folks. They had it in their heads to spoil our tricking, but our plans were already made, and we had taken what our folks had said into account. We would do our tricking on this night, the night before Halloween and forget about the treats of tomorrow night.Our plan was for all of us to get out of the house as quickly as we could after supper. If your folks raised suspicions, then you were to sneak out before supper. After all, what is a meal missed when the fun of Halloween was about to begin?
Just before supper, Wizzer gave our signal then hollered for me from outside the kitchen door just like we had planned. Mom never could say no to Wizzer. I had never told Wizzer about this, but one day I had heard Mom say that she felt sorry for him, what with him being a change of life baby and all. It wasn't my intent to spy on her. This particular conversation was overheard at one of her gabfests with her friend Julia. I was only trying to do what I had been trying to do with no luck at all for as long as I could remember. Namely, it was to see Mrs. Wetzel sleeping and doing something that took some watching and being careful. Just now, they was pitting and peeling peaches and getting them ready for canning.