A Wife in Crisis - Faith, Love and Sex_3185

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We recently had opportunity to correspond with a young woman who, married for a little over 2 years, had determined she really hadn't married for love and couldn't stand the thought of making love to her husband. She was pregnant before they married and determined marriage was the best thing at the time. Moreover, she recently became a Christian and was feeling conflicted about the whole situation. her husband, while a decent man, has no interest in becoming a Christian or participating in related activities (attending church, watching religious programming, reading the Bible, etc.). She is miserable but can't stand the thought of leaving her husband and subjecting her toddler to a 'broken home'. She does not yet have a church she's joined and is resistant to the idea of sharing her situation with a stranger (pastor, counselor). She, of course, shared with us because written communication allows anonymity.
What should she do?
It seems she has two distinct issues: 1.) She and her husband are now unequally yoked and 2.) her marriage is loveless. The two are separate and distinct.
In the first case, being unequally yoked is the KJV Bible phrase for when one spouse loves and serves the Lord and the other does not. Because she accepted Christ during the course of an existing marriage, she is immediately presented with a situation that has her taking a different life path from her husband. Many women have faced this, been fervent in their prayers, loving and reaped husbands who eventually surrendered to Christ and became strong men of Christian faith. This can happen for her too. Prayer is critical and priority. However, prayer needs to have some 'shoes' often to be most effective. No excuses. She must find and join a church where her faith can be developed, informed and rooted in God's word. Iron sharpens iron! She needs the support that comes from a community of faith. Eventually, there would be benefit from consulting someone properly trained to help her work through her marriage's issues in the context of her faith.
In the second case of a loveless marriage, we offered her the highest hope. God can restore to her a great love for her husband. We must always remember that God is love. We didn't complicate things by going into how God feels about divorce. We sensed she instinctively knows that God prefers homes to be kept together. Neither did we leave her with the impression that she was 'stuck' in a loveless marriage. God is bigger than that!
What we did communicate was that God's love is always a choice. God loved the world (by His choice) and so he gave the great gift of Jesus to rescue the world He so loved. (John 3:16, Romans 5: Cool

All pure love (even romantic or erotic) springs from God's unconditional (agape) love. So it would appear that she has the option to choose to pursue God's love and, from that, a love that will draw her heart toward her husband's. Simultaneously, she will learn how to be a spiritually and emotionally strong Godly wife whose behaviors and living become a living epistle (example of God's will) to her unsaved husband. In other words, God's love through her might draw him.

Please consider the above if you are or someone you know is in a similar life circumstance.. What this young wife is experiencing is less a problem and more an opportunity to live a great life of great love...by the power of a great God.
For us, Halloween was here. Some of the older folks were concerned about tomorrow night, which was really Halloween night. We had been told, "Tomorrow night you are not leaving this house." The story was the same with all of us. There was a conspiracy among the older folks. They had it in their heads to spoil our tricking, but our plans were already made, and we had taken what our folks had said into account. We would do our tricking on this night, the night before Halloween and forget about the treats of tomorrow night.Our plan was for all of us to get out of the house as quickly as we could after supper. If your folks raised suspicions,links pendant, then you were to sneak out before supper. After all, what is a meal missed when the fun of Halloween was about to begin?
Just before supper, Wizzer gave our signal then hollered for me from outside the kitchen door just like we had planned. Mom never could say no to Wizzer. I had never told Wizzer about this, but one day I had heard Mom say that she felt sorry for him, what with him being a change of life baby and all. It wasn't my intent to spy on her. This particular conversation was overheard at one of her gabfests with her friend Julia. I was only trying to do what I had been trying to do with no luck at all for as long as I could remember. Namely, it was to see Mrs. Wetzel sleeping and doing something that took some watching and being careful. Just now, they was pitting and peeling peaches and getting them ready for canning.